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What's your friendship style?

There's no single right way to be a friend. Some people host, some people listen quietly, some people drag everyone hiking. This short quiz types you into one of seven adult friendship archetypes — and on the result page you'll get a full description of your style: strengths, blind spots, who you pair best with, and five small practices to grow.

No signup. No email. Eight questions, ~4 minutes. Honest answers help — pick the option closest to what you actually do, not what sounds good.

1.At a party with mostly people you don't know, you most naturally end up:

2.Your most-used phrase with friends is closest to:

3.When a friend has a crisis, you're most likely to:

4.How would your closest friend describe your role in their life?

5.What does an ideal weekend with a friend look like?

6.Which of these descriptions of a friend group feels most true to your life?

7.The hardest part of adult friendship for you is:

8.A new acquaintance has just left a coffee with you. You go home and:

The seven archetypes

Quick previews. The quiz will pick one for you — but you're welcome to read any of them now.

Frequently asked questions

How long does the friendship style quiz take?+
About 3–4 minutes. There are 8 multiple-choice questions, and you get your result immediately on the same page — no email signup, no waiting.
Is this quiz based on real research?+
The seven archetypes are informed by research on adult friendship patterns (Dunbar's friendship circle sizes, Hall's hours-to-friendship work, Holt-Lunstad on loneliness, attachment-style and communal-orientation research). This isn't a peer-reviewed personality assessment like the Big Five or MBTI — it's a structured way of describing different friendship styles people consistently show. Read each archetype's research notes for the studies it draws from.
Can my result change over time?+
Yes. Most people lead with one or two archetypes, but the way you show up in friendship can shift across life stages — after a move, after a major loss, during parenting years, in retirement. Retake it once a year if you're curious.
What if I scored between two archetypes?+
That's normal and common. The result page shows your full breakdown so you can see your top two. Most adults are a blend — for example, a Connector-Sage or a Confidant-Anchor. Read both of your top archetype pages for a fuller picture.
Do I have to pick the 'best' archetype?+
No — none of the archetypes is better than the others. Each has unique strengths and a corresponding blind spot. The point of the quiz isn't to grade you. It's to show you the shape of your friendship style so you can build on what's strong and gently work on what's harder.
Will I get spam if I take this?+
No. This quiz is fully on-page, no email signup, no list, no follow-up emails. We don't currently run any newsletter at all. (If that changes one day, it'll be clearly optional.)
Sukie, founder of How to Make Friends Hub

Written by Sukie

Sukie is the curator behind How to Make Friends Hub. She has spent years collecting and sharing what actually works for adults trying to build real friendships — drawing from her own life, conversations with friends, and the best research on adult social connection.

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